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What to Do With a Demanding Kitty

By Joanne Eglash

What to Do With a Demanding Kitty

Cats have a reputation of being loners, but try telling that to owners whose feline follows them around like a shadow. Some domestic cats even become so attached to their humans that they crave nonstop attention. If “Mrrrrooooow! Mrrrrrrow! Mrrrrow!” followed by a friendly, yet forceful, head butt, have ever altered your plans, you might share your home with such a devoted, needy pet.

Signs of a Clingy Kitty
According to Jacqui Neilson, DVM and DACVB, “A clingy cat will follow the owner around constantly.” For example, she says, consider the cat that persists in jumping into whatever it is you are focusing on. “It is not easy to type on a keyboard or read a paper if the cat has positioned itself on that item.”

Your attention-craving kitty may do the same action over and over again. “Repeated attempts to relocate the cat often fail as the cat just jumps back up,” says Dr. Neilson, who runs a behavior referral specialty practice at the Portland Animal Behavior Clinic. In some cases, cats may become demanding only “when they want a specific item, such as food or interactive play.”

Clingy cats are difficult to ignore, agrees Sherry Woodard, an animal behavior consultant at Utah’s Best Friends Animal Society. “When you arrive home, he or she is at the door vocalizing.” Your demanding cat may attempt to climb up your legs, then “follow you everywhere, in and out of every room.” In addition, the needy pet might “help” you “work, clean, cook and read.” If this happens, you might discover kitty hopping onto your shoulder to “groom you” or even “chew on you,” Woodard adds.

Too Close for Comfort
If you’re dealing with a cat that seems to crave your attention all the time, try thinking outside the box. A needy cat may decrease its demands if you offer “some mental enrichment and physical activity,” according to Dr. Neilson. For example, try “creating a treasure hunt around the house with treats, or moving furniture around, so they have new things to investigate,” she says. You might also install a window perch, where your cat can become a “bird watcher.”

Investing in one or two DVDs designed just for cats, such as a movie of birds flying or fish swimming, might also keep kitty busy when you need some quiet time. Tip: Many online stores that sell such products offer previews. Test your cat’s interest level for free by showing the clip to kitty. You should also be sure that your cat has plenty of other diversions at “paw,” Woodard suggests, such as “cat toys, yummy edible plants, other cats, a huge cat tree in the living room, cat tunnels, beds and catnip.”

Cat daycare could also help your needy cat, according to Woodard. “Have someone come to your home and spend some quality time with your cat so he or she receives more attention,” she says. Another option: “Teach your cat to enjoy trips to a friend’s or family member’s house where someone is home to enjoy the cat’s company during your workday.”

While all cats could benefit from these stimulating diversions, your feline might also require a more fine-tuned approach, depending on its personality. Many felines fall under the “Midnight Meower,” “Laptop Lounger” or “Garfield Gobbler” profiles:

Midnight Meowers
If you have a Midnight Meower, your feline probably naps throughout the day but turns into an Energizer Bunny at night. Typically the owners of such cats will make excuses to their houseguests that “kitty can’t help it -- all cats are nocturnal creatures.”

That assumption is not true, according to Dr. Neilson. Cats tend to exhibit “heightened activity at dawn and dusk,” she says. Although some house cats may regularly display “a burst of nighttime activity that awakens the soundest of sleepers,” the Portland veterinarian believes felines are not nocturnal by nature. She, however, adds that the average house cat does not enjoy “a great deal of exercise and activity during the day.” She says, “While the humans are out working, most cats spend the day sleeping. In the evening, owners may enjoy curling up on the sofa with their feline companion.”

The result is akin to a teenager bored in a classroom all day, then obsessed with computer games and TV in the evening. By midnight or 2 a.m., that teenager may have so much pent-up energy that misbehavior ensues, such as sneaking out to party with pals. The same could happen to your cat. It may become passive throughout the day and early evening, gathering proverbial steam. The accumulated cat energy then “explodes in the wee hours of the morning -- often as dawn is approaching but well before our alarm is set to ring.

To manage the problem, you need to channel that energy into activities when your cat is awake,” Dr. Neilson explains. She recommends keeping your cat lively throughout the evening by playing games, such as an interactive toy chase. You also may be unwittingly motivating your cat’s midnight prowls by responding with “screams, shrieks or bellows,” combined with a chase that “the cat probably thinks is great fun,” cautions Dr. Neilson. “Consistent disregard on the part of the owner will eventually extinguish this type of behavior.”

Laptop Loungers
Does your cat love to lurk atop your computer keyboard or spread out in the midst of the newspaper that you’re trying to read? Such a feline “is making a very clear plea for attention,” Dr. Neilson says. Consider whether your cat receives sufficient “mental stimulation and physical exercise. If you are overworked, overbooked and burning the candle at both ends, your cat may be giving you a very important message -- slow down and smell the roses or at least scratch the cat.”

Perhaps kitty receives what should be sufficient attention from you. In that case, “you need to become creative and consistent. The creative part is discovering ways to engage your cat in activities that don’t require your constant engagement. A treasure hunt for treats, where you hide treats around the house for your cat to find,” or a “battery-powered toy” can help, suggests Dr. Neilson. As for consistency, make sure you don’t give in to your cat’s attention-seeking behaviors.

Garfield Gobblers
Does your cat calmly leap onto the kitchen table and slurp up the milk in your cereal bowl? Are you the embarrassed owner of the cat who came to the table and gobbled up the guest of honor’s salmon?

“To minimize this feline-feeding frenzy, you may want to satiate your cat before you sit down to eat by making sure your cat has had its meal first,” Dr. Neilson says. If problems continue, try keeping your cat in a different room while you eat. Alternatively, punishment such as a gentle squirt of water delivered at the right moment -- so that your cat associates the unpleasant squirt with the bad behavior -- can help.

Remember Who’s in Charge
Beware reinforcing your cat’s behavior by overindulging kitty’s demands, cautions Woodard. Additional signs that your cat is overly indulged, according to the Utah animal behavior expert, are:

  • You let your cat take food away from you.
  • You repeatedly permit your cat to keep you awake, or it awakens you throughout the night.
  • You respond to your cat’s yowls by dashing to look for the perfect treat.

If you realize that you are giving in to your cat’s ultra-demanding behaviors, take action by:

  • Moving the cat into another room before you begin your meal
  • “Keeping the butter dish covered so Fluffy doesn’t help herself to a midday snack,” Dr. Neilson suggests.
  • Using a child’s water gun to squirt water at your cat at night when you’re awakened or keeping your bedroom closed when you’re catching some shut-eye
  • Refusing to reward undesirable behavior with a treat, even if kitty yowls for attention

Different Breeds, Different Behaviors
Although most cats are mixed breeds, purebred cats may be “genetically predisposed to have certain personalities or exhibit certain behaviors,” according to Dr. Neilson. For example, Siamese cats are “known for their vocal abilities and will often meow or yowl to communicate their desires: feed me, pet me, play with me, etc.,” the veterinarian says. If you adore an Abyssinian, you may have noticed that your kitty is “curious, high-spirited and energetic,” adds Dr. Neilson. They typically “like to assist their humans in tasks but may not want to be held and cuddled.” Persians, on the other hand, “tend to crave affection and are less active,” according to Dr. Neilson. “They often make a great lap cat.”

Regardless of your cat’s breed or demands, you probably agree with Dr. Neilson when she says, “There is no doubt that the rewards we reap from our feline friends are amazing. They have a way of putting everything into purrspective!”

is a widely published journalist, specializing in health, fitness, food, fashion, relationships and lifestyles. She currently lives with two elderly cats, Miss Manners and Ashley, and is the official godmother to three poodles.

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Posted on September 29, 2011

Amber says: I have ignored my cat when he goes into the pay attention to me mode. He does it when I am trying to sleep. It has not stopped him. What it has done is made him make louder noises. I have used ear plugs but they give me a severe headache and I can't keep doing that. I also told him to stop and he cam over to me to get petted. I ignored him and kept pushing him away. I hope that works. I pet my other cat who was laying quietly on the bed but I would not pet the loud one. Is there anything else I can do or am I doing something wrong? I just want him to stop and be happy.

Posted on August 22, 2011

oldcoco says: my next cat will be another manx to replace my mans who was so intelligent...I will spend time to teach kitty how to use bathroom toilet...but not flush ot toiletpaper...once a cat flushes it is a game to watch water move.

Posted on October 10, 2009

pam says: Please help I have a 6yr old cat i have had him from a kitten, he is neutered, he,s a part of my family i brought him back from germany over 2yrs ago he has been chked for urinary probs. there is nothing wrong w/him except his need to pee on bathrugs, towels, tabelclothes ect. have tried felinepne tried everything to stopthis behavior which comes and gos he always has a clean box, but now his new favorite habit is to walk up to furniture and walls, curtains, and shake his but and spray it as if he were a skunk, this is increasingly frustrating as well as his need for escape to outside, hes not an outside cat his hudini acts in the past he has returned from but there are coyote around us now. anyway enough rambling i need help before my hubby demands his eviction. TY

Posted on July 8, 2009

Connie says: Why do cats bring figts to their owners? This weekend my Siamese has brought me two live frogs and one dead baby bird. What can I do to discourage this behavior?

Posted on July 4, 2009

Sharon Walk says: My cat is a rescue cat. I got her when she was five months old. I became seriously ill. She began biting me, deep bites not nips. I'mno longer ill The last bit sent me to the hospital. There is no reason I can see for it. Please help!

Posted on June 18, 2009

Laurita says: I LOVE your article, it fits my spoiled rotten feline children to a T. I am a widow and home most of the time, but they let me know when I left them unattended. Wouldn't trade them for a thing in the world. Thank you

Posted on July 1, 2009

jackie says: my kitten keeps biting me if i try to pet or carry him. he bites on my furniture. he will chase me if he feels like biting or scratching me. how can i make that stop? i've been trying to train him but he has no improvement. Please Help! if he doesn't improve in one week i have to give him away. I don't want that to happen. Once again please help!!!!

Posted on June 18, 2009

renae whitmyer says: i had my cat for 11 yrs,she was outside with my husband and i she saw another cat and chased it into the bushes, i could hear them fighting, but she never came out but i have seen the other cat she chased, she is not a out door cat, i am so worried that the other cat might have hurt her, i tried calling her shaking her box of food pop the top on her food, but she did not respon to any of those sounds, do you think she is dead, or got scared and ran and got lost, any suggestions , what can i do to get her back, it has now been 5 days since she has been gone,

Posted on May 25, 2009

Jean hays says: Why does my cat want to lick me?

Posted on June 7, 2009

sue castle says: i am trying to introduce a new cat to the 7 cat household. he is about 2years old, not agressive. but the other dont seem to like him. its been 6 weeks now. and i only let him out in small doses. i came in the house and he was in the hallway with one of the others. one went up to him to smell him and he stood on his hind legs and smacked him. i think he is just afaid of everyone. and is just stand up to them. just sure if i am doing this right. any comments?

Posted on June 11, 2009

suzan says: why is my cat crazy now i got her fixed she was fine for 3 weeks after now she just is crazy

Posted on June 12, 2009

Terri says: As im walking away my domestic short hair 5 yrs is jumping on the back of my leg in the calf area and biting me along with the claws. It seems to happen when he dont get what he wants PLEASE HELP ME

Posted on May 22, 2009

bill says: my cat is contantly liking herself and anyone else in tounge that a behavior thing?

Posted on May 24, 2009

Paula says: We have a cat who will play in her water and dump over the bowl. What causes this? It's a minor annoyance and kind of funny.

Posted on May 17, 2009

bob says: our beautiful girl love to play by biting and then licking me. She can really starting biting so I make a crying sound and she then licks me. She is more aggressive with me than with my wife. She is 8 and figure that this is her playful and loving nature. Sometimes she does break my skin on the back of my hand. She never bites me on the palm or inner side of my fingers.

Posted on May 20, 2009

terra says: My cat is constantly licking my hand when I pet her. She will like your feet if they are not covered, or any part for that matter. Legs, arms, whatever. What does this mean?

Posted on May 7, 2009

crunchykat says: Your kitty is not trying to "tell" you anything- she pees on the rug because she did it before and now it either smells of her pee, or she's habituated to using the rug. Keep it OFF the floor unless you need to stand on it. Or, If you can, relocate the litter box and keep the bathroom door closed for a month or two.

Posted on April 6, 2009

Patricia Ernest says: I have read some helpful hints concerning cats biting--mine does. Thank you for the suggestions.

Posted on April 6, 2009

Peggy says: we recently got a neueter 2 year male and my 4 year old spayed female is stalking him. How can I get her to quit?

Posted on April 10, 2009

Michele says: I have a 9 month old kitten who has been with us since she was 4 weeks old..she has gone crazy!!! she flies through the house like she is on speed...and then jumps at you, kinda attacks your legs hands feet, whatever she can grab and the jumps away to speed throught the house, only to come back and attack you again..what can I do?? We had her spayed @ 7 months, will she calm down at all?

Posted on April 13, 2009


Posted on March 31, 2009

Debbie says: This little girl adopted me about 6 months ago. I was outside one day and heard this frantic kitten meow. It apparently saw me and came running across the road and a car barely missed her. She was so little and was just about a handful. She appeared to be 8 to 10 weeks old. I had no idea where she came from but had noticed an old female in the area that was stray and wild. So this baby just latched onto me and would not let go. I took her in and introduced her to my little Yorkie. He thought it was a toy at first and I was afraid he might hurt her. But he started to play with her and she with him. Now he loves her to death. She has learned to jump on him and swat at him and this goes on all the time. Lucy makes her demands for attention. And bless her heart when she is in heat, she is pitiful. She act s like she has an itch she can not scratch. You know. Riley (the dog) can get away with playing with her, but she will swat him in a minute if he goes too far. She is beautiful and sweet and Smart. She learned her name really fast and loves to play. Sometimes she will jump on my leg as I pass or waite till I sit down and then jump on me and maybe nip at me. she is trying to force me to play with her. She is so funny and just pure defient at times. she knows perfectly well what is allowed and what is not. she will look right at me and do something like play in the curtains to see if I will come after her. I never had a cat before, but we just love Lucy. And having a Cat and a Yorkie has to be the most entertaining combo in the world.

Posted on March 28, 2009

Walt says: We have a female cat about 8 months old and is not neutered. lately (past day or so) she meows lowdly and seems to want to lay on her side constantly. She does not get along with the other female older cat so we don't know if she has been injured or going through heat. When confronting the other cat she always is the dominant one. She seems to sit wierd with her rump a little higher. Nothing seems to be a problem when she is felt, i.e. legs, arms etc. and she purrs all the time.

Posted on March 29, 2009

Sandy says: We just adopted a 7.5 pound Japenese Chin from a foster home. The female dog, Angel, is going to be a service dog for my sister and will begin training on April 1st. Our cat, Sandal, male, is having a difficult time accepting Angel into the household. We are trying to hold the cat and show more attention to him so he won't feel he is being replaced. He won't come to either of us anymore and when my sister who has owned him for 17 years tried to hold him he hissed, growled and didn't want anything to do with her. I finally won him over and held him for a while and he began to relax but still won't come to me like he used to when ever I called. How can I help Sandle to accept Angel into the household and not be angry.

Posted on March 28, 2009

chetty says: my male cat fuzzy climbs on me every morning to wake me then lick's my beard or the back of my head.then sit.s on my shoulder while i have breakfast.but i love him and the attention my wife get's mad

Posted on March 26, 2009

Barbara says: My 2 cats got out of the house they are house cats they are declawed and fixed..I see them I call them they will not come to me I just saw my boy cat which has been staying under next door porce there is no way for me to get him I call his name and shake the treat bottle and still won't come to me why?? They had it so nice there own beds scraching post have the run of the house they are very well behave cats I did everything am suppose to love them play with them what am I doing wrong I love them miss them and want them home but they will not come to me they are not outdoors cats when its cold out they would sleep by the heater vent too keep warm now they cant and its getting colder out do you think they will come home an not too far away from them just don't understand am a very good pet owner please help me please I just wnat my cats back home where they are safe and loved

Posted on March 26, 2009

mary says: My 6 yr old half persian cat likes to eat toilet paper and tissues and will even chew on books. Why I ask. She is well fed but I keep her inside. I love this cat but know her little cat lips ahve been on the tissue or toilet paper by the tell tale bits. any suggestions of what she is missing ummm..besides her own roll of toilet paper.

Posted on March 22, 2009

michelle says: my 2 fixed cats one male one female still go through the motions of mating they are both 4 and 5 years old why are they doing this there loud at night and I can't stop them!!!!! they just started doing this 2months ago help?

Posted on March 26, 2009

Janis Wesley says: My 4 year old cats (brother & sister) have been close all these years until they started fighting last week. They are totally indoor cats, both neutered & I suspect the male has been playing too rough lately and she has just had it. Now she hisses, growls, pees when pounced on, etc. I have separated them with a high doorway gate, so they can see each other and I let them have turns in "detention". I'm worried that I shouldn't separate them at all....that I should just let them fight it out. I simply don't know what to do. HELP....Janis

Posted on March 13, 2009

MBooth says: I have 2 cat's brother and sister they are very close after she was spayed she could not sleep unless he was next to her, Today after there baths, which they always get, She has become VERY aggressive to him,growling and hissing. It has been 5 hrs and we still have to keep them apart. He continues to want to be with her and cry's at the door of our room. we have seperated them because she trys to slap at him. In the process she scratch my face becaues he was to close to her. This has never happened. the only thing diffrent is that this is the frst bath since she was spayed. Help... I do not know what to do for her.

Posted on March 13, 2009

Lyrae Leif says: I had my female cat spayed two weeks ago. We just started letting her go outside for the first time in her life today. Tonight she wet on the carpet next to the front door. She has never once wet in the house! Why did she do this?

Posted on March 10, 2009

Anna says: My Pretty seems to be in heat, She puts her takl up and backs up to you, even the dogs. How long does she stay in heat? I've only had her for about 2 months. Loving, and follows me in every room. I will have her spayed and declawed because she is a house cat only and she accudebtakkt ckaws ne, Any suggestions.

Posted on March 10, 2009

scott says: I have two boys, neutered litter mates that just turned one years old. They were the best of friends, played together, slept together and even groomed each other. Recently, they got out and had a chance to explore outside. It became a impossible to keep then inside, so now they are allowed out only while we are home and never at night. The problem is one of cats treats the other like a complete stranger now who is invading his space. He hiss's and growls at his brother and as of today, seems afraid to go outside. What happen? Both of these guys are the sweetest boys you ever will meet but something's changed.

Posted on March 8, 2009

ilona says: i got a 12 year old persian who wants my constant attantion,yowls most of the night and day , i haven't had a good nights sleep in i dont know how long. please help me to find an answer to make him stop. i love my but i cant tolerate this behavier any longer iam at my wits end. thanks!!!

Posted on March 1, 2009

claudia says: I have a cat that likes to sit on top of my chair and chew on my hair. He will actually reach down with his paw just to grab some to chew on. How can i get him to stop? I have 3 cats total and he was found with his brother in the woods, his brother doesn't do that but they are both very loving cats

Posted on March 4, 2009

bonnie says: One of my two cats poops in the box without covering poop with litter and sometimes she poops outside the box (about once a week) on wood floor near box. I have 3 boxes, scoop 2 x a day, clean entire box 1x week. I use scentfree litter and am running out of ideas. After many tries I have concluded she is very fussy and won't poop in any box if there's anything in it. Any suggestions? Thanks!!!

Posted on February 27, 2009

anna allen says: i have a male cat about 2 yrs old. he has recently been putting his butt and or tail in our face, not meowing or anything he will just stand there, anyone know why? I cannot stand when he does that, i push him away and tell him no, my husband isnt as firm. And to the people with cats that wake u up for food. lock them in another room, put a towel at the door so when they scratch on it, it doesnt wake you up. feed them a small handfull of food when you put them to bed in their room. it worked just fine for mine. he even goes in "his" bedroom when i tell him too. just like a child, you have to be consistant and not give in.

Posted on February 23, 2009


Posted on February 19, 2009

mici miller says: my 23 year old (sissy) gets socks and drags them and is very verbal while she is doing it she has done this for years so i didnt know if it was age . she goes clear down to the basement climbs many stairs. when she was younger we would have socks all over ,now its just 1 or 2. she digs in the laundry basket until she finds one why is she doing this?im worried that because of her agethis is a struggle on her,thanks

Posted on February 18, 2009

tammy says: my cat is three yrs.old adopted her two years ago every time my husband and i wear a cotten tee shirt she will jump on are laps and nurses (sucks) on the shirt around are shouldes and chest...why does she do that and could it make her sick..thanks tammy

Posted on February 16, 2009

Dennis says: We have2 female sister cats who are spayed. They are mostly outside cats. One marks by spraying on occasion inside the house. Shooting urine at the height of the base of her tail. So it seems to be marking territory. What can I do?

Posted on January 17, 2009

mary carter says: Can a 6 month old cat impregant a 6 month old cat.

Posted on January 18, 2009

jackie says: we took her in--someone dropped her off. we love her so much. her problem is moaning and meowing from early evening and all nite. help!!we don't get any sleep.

Posted on February 12, 2009

Sarah says: my 6 year old cat has the exact behavior. she'll wake me up at 2 or later for attention and food. i try to close her out of my room.. but she'll scratch at the door. any suggestions?

Posted on January 15, 2009

Stan says: We have an extremely friendly cat who gets a great deal of attention. The moment I lie down or try to read he is ontop of me and other family members. If I'm trying to read in bed he squeezes so close to my face that I can't get the book in. But that isn't what's bothering us. He wailes all night with the most disturbing sounds I've ever heard come out of a cat. He does it during the daytime too often after I finished playing or patting him as though he wants more and he's mad. He sprays around the house too. I've witnessed him doing it after wailing and I wonder if she wanted me to see her spraying. He's completely ruined our sofas with the smell of urine, We really love him because he's so affectionate when not misbehaving but I don't think we can keep him if this continues. Any advise would be helpful. Thanks

Posted on January 9, 2009

Belinda says: My 2 yr. old cat wakes me up every night at 4am for food and or attention. What can I do to stop this behavioral problem?

Posted on January 6, 2009

ann smith says: my 3-4 yr old cat will first reach up and touche my face and then his butt around and tiwich it at me. this how he does all the time and he has been fixed he also bites (not hard) while im petting him

Posted on January 4, 2009

Carolyn Quinn says: One cat went to vet to get one tooth removed and a teeth cleaning. both cats were very close and now after bring the one home from the vet. The other cat will have nothing to do with him. She hisses adn makes a deep growling sign. any suggestions if this will get better. It has been 3 days. I'm thinking it is smells from vet visit of the other. They all ways went to the vet together. Our regular vet did not do the work.

Posted on January 4, 2009

Eileen says: My kitten is 6 months old. For the past few days she has been moaning quite a bit. She has a hard time getting adjust to sitting and when she does sit she leaves and then sits somewhere else. I give her lots of attention when I am home. Any suggestions before I take her to the vet?

Posted on December 30, 2008

Mary Alice Anderson says: I have a 2 1/2 yr.old spayed female who had a neutered pal until my daughter moved away 4 months ago. Kitty got depressed and needy. I just took on a recently neutered 1 1/2 yr old. He is so mean, and he hasn't left the room (my kitchen) that he was 1st deposited in. Screams and growls if he is approached, barely eats, or eliminates. He also uses claws and tries to bite when approached. I find I must go back to work next week. Can I trust that they won't kill each other or me?

Posted on December 21, 2008

Brenda Vetaw says: i recently got a new kitten my big cat is mean 2 her and keepswipeing &hissing at her cats not getting along one is about 13mnths and my 3wk old baby(kitten)

Posted on December 9, 2008

Maggie says: A lot of cats will stop biting if you can make a meow like a hurt kitten. This is harder for people with low voices.

Posted on November 22, 2008

Becky Cain says: I have two 7 month old yellow tabby brothers, both have been neutered. One of them will not stay out of my lap and wants to sit on my chest and "knead" my neck and shoulder. It hurts, but more than that it is aggravating. What causes this? Any kind way to stop it?

Posted on November 18, 2008

Sandi says: Our 10 yr old Tonkinese continuously kneeds and will place her nose/mouth against my nose. She'll kneed and pur loudly and sometimes it's hard to get her to stop, without being forceful. She's alone all day and since our daughter left for college, the kitty is extremely lonely. It seems like it's her way of loving us. Good luck with the lil' rascal.

Posted on November 18, 2008

christopher says: everytime i put a movie in, K.A.T. freaks.. its the surround sound.. ? If i just put the tv speakers on he's fine.. If the surround sound is on.. he runs to everyspeaker, screaming MEOW.. puts his ears back, and slaps the speaker.. He especially hates the movie SpaceBalls? Maybe he doesn't like mel brooks?

Posted on November 18, 2008

christopher says: I live in RI, i have a feral cat, I picked up off the side of the road, he was about 4 weeks old, flea bitten, mangy no hair.. He is now 2, we moved to a new place with central heat, when the blower comes on he freaks.. and clings to me (which he does already). Any ideas? Its cold in RI in the winter..

Posted on August 13, 2008

jamie peters says: I just recently was given great advice that actually works on how to stop cats from biting. It's probably a result from biting not being properly addressed when the cat was a kitten and teething. Whether you are talking about a kitten or a cat, if it goes to bite, immediately blow a quick but gentle blow in it's face. Then give it a plastic drinking straw to chew on or a catnip scented toy. Cats don't like having air blown in their face, but it is a kind and effective way to stop them from doing whatever they are doing. The straw or toy given immediately after the blowing is an acceptable object for them to bite or chew on. Just make sure to change the straws as they become worn from the chewing. Good luck.

Posted on August 17, 2008

Jean says: I have a 4 month old female kitten. I have had since she was two weeks old. I also have a two years old female cat I have had her since she was a baby. My kitten has taken over the bedroom my cat loves to sleep and play in. She jumps on my cat every time my cat gets on my bed or goes into the bedroom. My cat has lose weight, lays around, and whines all the time. what do I do I don't want to give up my kitty but I am very worried about my cat she doesn't appear to be happy anymore. What do I do to?

Posted on August 19, 2008

mare says: How do I stop my 5 year old cat from bringing me birds? I inherited him from my daughter 2 weeks ago. He is doing fine except the bird thing which he never did before... PLEASE help fast!!!

Posted on September 6, 2008

Evelyne says: This made me understand much about my 2 different cats (one cat 7 yrs, the other 10 mo. kitten). My 7 is acting up and the 10 is driving nuts with meows. After analyzing your site, these ladies are getting a playhouse and the 10 is about to get damp. Thank you!

Posted on September 12, 2008

marie funk says: I just brought a new cat home and the cat that was already there hisses at the new cat and in turn she hisses back. How do I make them get along with each other?

Posted on September 26, 2008

Helen says: I don't think I saw a comment or answer to the lady (Rosemary Varnot) dated 7/27/08 about the problems she was having with her 6 yr. old Siamese cat who was biting & attacking her constantly for no reason. Her vet simple said the cat was not wired right.She had it declawed, but it continued to attack. Would you mind looking back over her problem and address it? Its listed as agression, attacking & biting. Thank You. Your answers to all the above questions are awesome and so helpful! Keep up the good work! Thanks again

Posted on October 8, 2008

Lori Malby says: I have 2 kittens that are 13 weeks old and one is independent and the other is in my face and tries to suck on my neck. what is up with that? How do I make her stop...does she need something I don't know about.

Posted on October 9, 2008

susie barnes says: when i go to bed my cat starts licking my hair why dose she do that?

Posted on October 20, 2008

Pramo Jones says: When i carry my cat and put it on my bed and tell it to sit down. It does not listen. It always climbs onto my table. Why does he do that???

Posted on October 30, 2008

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Posted on November 7, 2008

Ariana says: My cat always follows me around. I don't want her to stop, i think it's nice. I know she always loves me.

Posted on November 11, 2008

Sharon L. Williams says: Our cats usually take a little nip, not hard, but their teeth are sharp and startles us. This hapens when we are petting them. I say they are love bites but not sure

Posted on November 16, 2008

dennis says: our kitty is wonderful, no problems, other than she gently sicks on skin, usually our arms, from time to time. should we stop this behavior and why does she do this?

Posted on November 16, 2008

dennis says: we have an indoor/outdoor kitty, 8 mo old. is it dangerous to put collar on her? will she choke in tight space?

Posted on November 17, 2008

Emily says: Our family cat Jo-Jo is about 2 yrs. old. At first he used the litter box. We had little trouble with training him to use it. Now he uses my house palnt's! I have kept his litterbox clean on a regular basis and even have tried diffrent litter. I have tried rinsing them out to get rid of the smell. I have removed all my house plants to outdoors and got him some catnip plants and catgrass. So that he would have his own. But anytime I get a different house plant he still uses it as his litterbox. Why is he doing this? How can I stop him and retrain him to use the litterbox? He is like a member of our family and I would like any tip's or advice on this. Thankyou Emily

Posted on August 9, 2008

tigger lover says: my cat tigger is an indoor cat but we used to take her outside 4 about 3 min. but now she demands to go outside meowing at the top of her little lungs desperately wanting to go outside!!!!! solution: i just sit there staring at her then she walks away if you do not want your cat to be an outdoor cat, NEVER take it outside

Posted on August 10, 2008

Nicole says: I just got a 5 week old kitten, Maddy, from my aunt. She is a sweet heart but she is always meowing at me and when i am out of the room. she has this thing about wanting to sleep on my chest. Is this a bad thing to start my cat off doing. how do i get her to stop sleeping on my chest if its a bad thing for her to do.. one more question... How do I wean her from her milk to water???

Posted on August 10, 2008

Carol Karlslyst says: How do I stop Hannah from biting? Use a spray water bottle? Give her a toy?

Posted on August 10, 2008


Posted on August 10, 2008

jackie says: i have multiple cats all who play with and love each other and yes some fights get too rough,but there is one cat my older tabby who gets picked on by everyone and he cries and runs away all the time,once in a great while he will go crazy and start slapping at all the cats, but he really is intimidated by all of them,is it his older age 12 perhaps?

Posted on August 10, 2008

jackie says: i have multiple cats all who play with and love each other and yes some fights get too rough,but there is one cat my older tabby who gets picked on by everyone and he cries and runs away all the time,once in a great while he will go crazy and start slapping at all the cats, but he really is intimidated by all of them,is it his older age 12 perhaps?

Posted on August 11, 2008

patti says: My cat's name is baby. She is still a kitten but an older one.i got her from a basement as she had very little contact with people.Poor thing! She is very demanding for attention and can be really rotten. But i love her alot.She wants to eat all the time.

Posted on August 11, 2008

Sherry says: I recently started using Feline Pine cat litter. It's all natural pine and is much healthier for us, our cats and our environment! It costs less than the litter you're using now and lasts for a little over a month. When you pour it, there is no harmful dust cloud that you inhaling like you do with regular litter. Furthermore, the clumping litter is harmful for your cat because of the clay and perfumes in it- when they bathe themselves, they are ingesting harmful chemicals that is on their paws from their litter. Feline Pine also serves as a natural ammonia neutralizer so you NEVER smell the strong cat urine smell. All you need to do is scoop the poo daily. When you dispose of the contents in the litter box, you can dispose of it in your garden to be used as mulch! Check it out! My cats seem happier about the clean smell of their litter! I'm certainly happier that I can't smell them as well and it costs less than regular litter!

Posted on August 11, 2008


Posted on August 13, 2008

kathy says: I just recently got some great advice that works for cats and kittens that bite. If it's a kitten, it's possible it's teething. If it's a full grown cat then biting was not properly addressed when it was a kitten and it learned that this was an acceptable for play or expression. . In either case, whenever the cat/kitten goes to bite, blow a quick and gentle blow in it's face. That will stop the cat immediately, then give the cat/kitten a straw to bite on, or a catnip scented toy. Do this every time the cat goes to bite and you'll see the behavior will change in a very short time. Yelling at the cat means nothing to them. The blowing response is an acceptable deterent and cats don't like it, the straw is an acceptable substitution for the cat to bite on. Just be careful to change the straws before they become worn out from the biting. Good luck.

Posted on August 13, 2008

kathy says: I just recently got some great advice that works for cats and kittens that bite. If it's a kitten, it's possible it's teething. If it's a full grown cat then biting was not properly addressed when it was a kitten and it learned that this was an acceptable for play or expression. . In either case, whenever the cat/kitten goes to bite, blow a quick and gentle blow in it's face. That will stop the cat immediately, then give the cat/kitten a straw to bite on, or a catnip scented toy. Do this every time the cat goes to bite and you'll see the behavior will change in a very short time. Yelling at the cat means nothing to them. The blowing response is an acceptable deterent and cats don't like it, the straw is an acceptable substitution for the cat to bite on. Just be careful to change the straws before they become worn out from the biting. Good luck.

Posted on August 13, 2008

kathy says: I just recently got some great advice that works for cats and kittens that bite. If it's a kitten, it's possible it's teething. If it's a full grown cat then biting was not properly addressed when it was a kitten and it learned that this was an acceptable for play or expression. . In either case, whenever the cat/kitten goes to bite, blow a quick and gentle blow in it's face. That will stop the cat immediately, then give the cat/kitten a straw to bite on, or a catnip scented toy. Do this every time the cat goes to bite and you'll see the behavior will change in a very short time. Yelling at the cat means nothing to them. The blowing response is an acceptable deterent and cats don't like it, the straw is an acceptable substitution for the cat to bite on. Just be careful to change the straws before they become worn out from the biting. Good luck.

Posted on July 30, 2008

Dana Klein says: HELP! I have two male cats (also two females) who are at war with each other. The older male started "marking" territory outdoors, and now the younger male is doing the same thing. I don't know WHAT I will do if they start doing this indoors!

Posted on August 5, 2008

Stephanie says: Give your cat time to get used to her new surroundings. When you move - try to give your cat a safe haven. When we moved into our new house - I turned the office into the "kitty room" for about 3 or 4 days. All of their posessions were in there and they were able to get comfortable with the house. My tom was ready after about 3 hours to explore the house, but his sister wasn't ready for about a week. She would escape from the room and hide under my pillow. She still does this during thunderstorms but otherwise, once she was used to the new home - she was fine.

Posted on August 5, 2008

Stephanie says: If your cat is not using the litter box - it may be that the litter box is dirty OR they may not like the litter you have chosen. He/she may have a urinary or bowel problem. If this is an issue - see a vet immediately!!!

Posted on August 5, 2008

Stephanie says: Are your cats spayed and neutered? If the female is in heat - the male will do all he can to get to her.

Posted on August 5, 2008

Stephanie says: Most likely the cats are playing. I have a male and female litter mates and they will attack each other like that on a daily basis. Then one will chase the other through the house. Cats play. Sometimes they will fight, too - but one has to push the other to the limit.

Posted on August 5, 2008

stephanie says: Some cats take time to become affectionate. I adpoted my two cats (litter mates) when they were 1 year old. It took me 2 years to get them to become more affectionate. They still don't like to be held (especially the male) but now the female will sit in my lap. It takes time. Don't make your cat do anything he is uncomfortable with. As for the doorbell - my cat is afraid of thunder and some loud noises - she hides but she recovers.

Posted on August 5, 2008

stephanie says: You MUST take your cat to the vet. The smell is an infection. It will only get worse if it is not taken care of immediately. You are putting your cat through unnecessary pain. Not all vets are expensive. Cats are cheaper than dogs.

Posted on August 6, 2008

Emily says: My 1yr old rescued cat is hopping on my keyboard right now and always asking to be carried.She grabs my finger and grooms it when I pull away she claws in.

Posted on August 6, 2008

Jamie Peters says: Many towns have local ASPCA associations who either have a Vet on the premises or a referal list of local Vets who will treat the cat for nothing in a case like this, or who will work out a payment program with the owner. She needs to look up the number in her phone book for the nearest ASPCA chapter. Another source she can utilize would be local Animal Shelters. They too can be a great help in refering this person to a qualified Vet who'll offer their services for next to nothing.

Posted on August 7, 2008

Val says: Hi Betty, Please take your cat to a different Vet. It feels like there is something wrong with her. Cats behavior is their only way of talking to us. If you had a child that wanst able to communicate except by their behavior...and you could see her acting would continue taking her to doctors till one figured out what was wrong. Please do the same for your fur are her only protector.

Posted on August 7, 2008

tammy says: my kitty is 5 weeks. and she goes in the box but then she'll go on our beds. then scratches and goes on floors. Im a first time pet owner

Posted on August 8, 2008

patricia says: Why does my cat urinate outside of the litter box, I keep it clean, had to put a plastic runner in front of the littter box, he goes on the runner. What do I do to break him of this terrible problem?

Posted on August 8, 2008

LuLu says: I have 3 cats, 2 males, 1 female, all fixed. 1 male is the offspring of the other 2 cats. Everyone got along just fine until one night, then the 2 males started to fight like crazy, I mean really FIGHT!! I thought I would be rushing to the vet when I finally got the younger one out from under the bed. We seperated them for a while and let them get back together and they started to fight again. Now, we keep them seperate 24/7 which is a real inconvenience. I cannot part with any of my babies, any suggestions?? Thanks in advance.

Posted on August 8, 2008

mary says: we want to get another animal but dont know if a small dog is a good idea.the cat is very laid back and a perfect mellows out most time..thinking of a yorkie...thanks

Posted on August 8, 2008

derweasel says: You stated that this incident was the first time your cat had exhibited this type of behavior. If so, your decision to take it to the humane society was a knee-jerk decision! It should have been little trouble for you to keep your cat away from your 7 month old when you aren't around to supervise. If you cared about your cat, you would have taken time to observe it's behavior over a longer period of time. If this type of behavior became habitual, then yo maight have cause for concern. Usually single incidents are "situational." If you tend to make impulsive decisions like this, you probably don't need another pet. Fortunately, you can't take your 7 month old to the humane society.

Posted on August 8, 2008

Lisa says: "I have a 3 yr rag doll cat. recently he has a bowl movement in my leather chair. He still goes in his cat box but the last 2 nights I find this surprise in my chair. I have not changed his litter and he still uses this. please help" You MUST, repeat MUST clean the waste out of your litter box every day, sometimes several times a day depending on how much your cat goes. A cat's nose is very sensitive. and cats by nature are very clean creatures. They will NOT use a litter box that stinks any more than you'd use the facilities that hasn't been flushed. I use a kind of litter that clumps and is flushable and three times a day. when the level goes down I refill it and I always maintain a half full level because your cat has been trained by his mom to cover his mess. If he has not enough litter to cover it, it'll obviously stink and repel your cat. I sometimes mix a little baking soda in my cat's box to keep it fresh. You didn't mention what kind of litter you have, but I have clumping, flushable litter so all I have to do is just keep refilling it. My 3rd cat is 8 years old and he's never made an accident. My second cat was nearly 12 before he passed and he never made any accidents. However my first cat would pee half in/half out until I realized I needed to keep her box crap free several times a day.. Once I did, she never made any other messes. Remember also your cat isn't doing his accidents out of spite. He/she is just reflecting on how well or how poorly you keep up your box. Laziness will force your cat to use other alternatives for elimination.

Posted on August 8, 2008

Lisa says: "How do I stop my kitten from wetting My bed" Simple solution. Go to the pet store and get a jug ot liquid stain and odor stuff. Your cat could be attracted by his own odor and thinks that's where he's supposed to. Or your kitten could have a physical problem that he can't get to his box or your kitten was taken away from mom too early before she could litter train him. If possible watch your kitten and see what signs they're using before going. Pick up kitten and put him/her in the box so kitten will understand that's where to go. At the appropriate age it's essential you take your cat, if he's male to get neutered. It'll cut down on tumors, it'll very much cut down on aggression, and will more likely than not, prevent your cat from marking territory by spraying urine. Your best bet of course is call your vet and ask what to do for other solutions. I'm counting on the fact that your kitten has a vet as many don't think a cat needs a vet.

Posted on August 8, 2008

Lisa says: Not all cats are friendly and you can't force them to be. I wouldn't worry about your cat's problem with door bells and hiding. Just accept it as a quirk. When it comes to affection, that's great that he is although selectively. Never force a cat to accept affection. If he doesn't want to be picked up or held, don't. Getting him into a carrier with him not liking to be held is a question to ask a vet. I can tell you this. Getting him by the scruff of the neck and holding tight could cut down on the fight when putting him in your carrier if you shove him in. Some cats stop fighting, other cats fight more but holding him at the scruff won't hurt him. Don't do it however any other time. Again, when it comes to affection and holding don't force it.

Posted on August 8, 2008

Patti Prest says: I too have a "throw-away" cat that we found about four years ago. He is a real sweetie, but he also will reach up and slap. I think it's his way of saying "Hello...remember me? Keep petting, please." I like to think he appreciates the fact that we rescued him from certain death as he was ill and injured when we found him

Posted on August 8, 2008

MILLAR GUTHRIE says: Because your cat takes only a couple of bites of food and then walks away could mean he has an infected tooth or teeth. My cat would eat often but only a bite or two at a time. Vet found 3 infected teeth, removed them and now Pumpkin eats like a champ. Orange cats are prone to having problems with their teeth the vet said, but other cats can have similar problems.

Posted on August 8, 2008

Debbie Renner says: I have two Siamese cats, male and female, brother and sister. I have two litter boxes and the male has no problem using the box. However, the female tinkles on my bathroom rug, right in front of the box. If the rug is not down, she will tinkle in the box, if the rug is down, she tinkles on the rug. I don't understand what she is telling me. It is like a tug of war - I want the rug down and I guess she doesn't. What is her problem?

Posted on July 23, 2008

May-Lynn says: How do I stop my kitten from wetting My bed

Posted on July 24, 2008

melody says: I have a 3 yr rag doll cat. recently he has a bowl movement in my leather chair. He still goes in his cat box but the last 2 nights I find this surprise in my chair. I have not changed his litter and he still uses this. please help

Posted on July 24, 2008

shell says: I have a polydactyl cat and she has extra claws on both front and back, one of her front paws there is a claw that is wrapped around and under her paw and i know it is hurting and i just noticed that it has a very fowl smell coming from it, i can not afford to take her to the vet, any idea what this might mean at all or is there any thing i can do?

Posted on July 24, 2008

Shelly Smith says: Gotta say it -- you have a cat that's abandoned and then you take her in and deform her (declaw - yes it is mutilation and you shouldn't need to be told that!) -- can't say i'd interpret anything you did thereafter as "love" either. And I"ll bet she wasn't caged inside prior to running into you and the declawing. Cruel. She's a living dead cat now.

Posted on July 24, 2008

david says: I have 5 YEAR old persian cat, that we found about 4 years ago in the bushes,just recently my cat seems to get very angry in a short period of time, he growls, takes a swing a you,if you are petting him while he is taking is bath, licking, he will let you have it,he was never like this before, then he simmers down,starts to purr again, differant personality thanks

Posted on July 25, 2008

vicki says: I have an all white, blue eyed female cat that is completely deaf. When she wants food beteen regular feeding times, she climbs on a piece of furniture, counter, bookshelf, table, wherever she feels like it, and knocks things off until I feed her. I have three other cats, one that is overweght and on the Catkins diet, so I can't just leave food out for her to eat when she wants to. I have tried spraying her with water, throwing a toy in her direction to redirect her, and ignoring her. The only thing that works is feding her as soon as she jumps up on the furniture, which only works if I'm there when she is hungry. She has a double sided sliding glass door to look outside and a oor to ceiling cat tree to climb on, so the only reason I can conclude for her behavior is that she wants food, but my patience is dwindling with her! Please help!

Posted on July 25, 2008

Alex says: OK. First of all cat owners please do not get upset at your cat's behavior. They have no other way to communicate their feelings rather than with their actions. Many cats wet the owner's bed because their litter is dirty and smelly. Their sense of smell is 14 times stronger than humans. So, please scoop out the poops at least once a day and change the litter every 3 or 7 days. If your cat is not being affectionate is because you're probably not stimulating him enough or you are not giving him enough space. Sometimes cats want alone time just as humans do. By the way, now that you have declawed your cat please please don't kick him out of the house. Their claws is their only way of survival,without them, they are helpless. Cats have the need to over eat when they feel sad or lonely. How do some humans ease their tension or boringness? A lot of us tend to reach out for food or sweets. Just a reminder. Animals are true friends to humans, they can sense when you are feeling down and will try to cheer you up at any cost. Please love them, respect them and take good care of them. Thank you

Posted on July 26, 2008

shelia west says: we callie & myself just moved. when she hear's a loud noise etc. so goes and climbs under my bedcovers and stay's for hour's . can she breath ok under the covers & is this cause from fright?

Posted on July 26, 2008

elaine elzia says: my cat likes to bite my hands. she is afraid of hands and tries to bite when petted. i got her that way and i have not been able to get her to stop. i have started to hand feed her only hoping that she will get use to my hands and not bite but as soon as the food is gone she runs away. she is afraid of hands, anyones. help i do not want to take her to a shelter because she bites they might put her to sleep i love her dearly but she is not a good companion for me. i can pick her up and love her near my face. she is not afraid of being close to my face as long as she does not see my hands. i am at a loss i do not know what to do. thanks elaine elzia

Posted on July 27, 2008

Rosemary Varnot says: My 6 yr old siamese male has always been a biter.I had a vet who came to the house when he was a kitten, @ his 2yr checkup, he was so bad, I had to put him in the bathtub & she could only give him his shot by putting a rug over him. A yr or so later I asked her what I could do, she said 'maybe he just wasn't wired right" I just can't bring myself to put him down (my family can't understand how I can put up wth this behavior). I had him declawed, only to take away at lease one tool . He has to be with me at all times, if I don't do what he wants, he will attack me, I don't mean a bite & run off, I mean he will keep coming at me. Also, he can be on my lap & just turn around an start attacking. You can drench him wth the water bottle & he just keeps coming. He has attacked me during the night, usually at my head, I have woken up with bloody bites.

Posted on July 27, 2008

BETTY says: My cat is 18 years old and in the last few months she has started crying a lot, she will follow me around meowing. She also crys alot about food, I have tried all kinds of food, and she will take a couple of bites and walks off and starts crying. She gets in my lap and won't stay still, it takes me a while to get her to just lay there. I pet her and rub her.Some days she will sleep all day and some she goes around crying all day. I have taken her to the vet 3 or 4 times and he says she is okay, that she is just a whinner. She has had her thyroid taken out, so I don't know if she is in pain or not, it worries me. I think she is hard of hearing also, and she will get out of her bed and start to go somewhere and turns around and goes back to her bed, she will do this over and over. I thought maybe she has stress and found a spray that is suppose to help stress in cats to spray on their bedding. I'm not sure if it is working or not. She still cries a lot. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do, please help me. Thank you, Betty

Posted on July 28, 2008

Jerry Gorman says: I adopted my cat from the humaine society. He was 10 months at the time. He is not as friendly as I wish. He also seems to have problems with door bells. Once he hears the bell, he heads for his hiding place. He is very affectionate with me only in the morning and he usually sleeps with me. Otherwise, the only time he will let me pet, scratch, or groom him is when he is on the floor. He does not like for me to pick him up or hold him. I have had him for almost a year now and I cannot get a handle on it. Thanks Jerry

Posted on July 28, 2008

christine weaver says: I was cleaning and re-arranging the downstairs and my female cat started hissing,spitting,growling and was showing her teeth and lunging towards me and was basically trapping me were i could not move. we have a 7 month old and she has never done this before until yesterday. I let her calm down and started cleaning again and she did it again,I shut her out of the basement and she attacked the door. she really would not let me go up the stairs to get my daughter. did I do the right thing and take her to the human society. i do not know now what she is capable of doing. she mad me nervous. she has never acted out this bad christine

Posted on July 28, 2008

deb says: I have a friend whos cats, (ones a female other is a male). at times their are wrestling each other, wondering why they do that. Is that what they are playing or cause they really like each other?

Posted on July 28, 2008

Crystal says: Recently (the last month) my male cat has begun to have bowl movements in 3 seperate areas of my house. One area is by my husbands lazy chair which is in front of the patio door. Another area is on our stairs leading to the living room that the chair is in and the other location is in front of our front door. The litter has not been changed recently, we tried removing the dome lid to the litter box and the litter is cleaned once a day. I have tried putting foil paper down and that seemed to work for a couple of days but the minute I removed the paper he started again. And now that I have put the foil back, he is just going around the paper. I thought that he was upset because he wasn't getting enough attention, but increased attention didn't stop it. I also thought it could be because we have not brought him outside in a while. He and his sister are indoor cats but we will put them in harnesses and bring them outside with us when we know we will be out there for a long period of time. He hasn't been out since before he started this behaviour. He doesn't urinate in the house...only in the litter box. And we have tried showing him the litter box over and over again. Do you have ANY suggestions that could help me stop this nasty habit?

Posted on July 23, 2008

Louise Jackson says: We found this half grown female cat someone threw out at our house about three years ago. She wants you to hold and pet her and the next thing you know is that she has slapped you in the face with both feet.We had her spayed and declawed and have tried to give er a lot of love but she wont let us .

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