Are Cats Loners?

Are Cats Loners?

The stereotype that cats are aloof loners who care more about their food and warm sleeping spots than they do about their humans has been around for years. If such comforts came without you and your companionship, your cat would be out the door, right? Not quite, believe it or not. Plenty of cat owners -- maybe even you -- with friendly, attention-needy felines serve as proof.

Fortunately, it’s not too late to start playing a vital role in your cat’s life. These simple steps can help create a great relationship with your beloved feline.

Cats Are Social
“Dogs, humans and almost all the other species we come in contact with are pack species,” says Dr. Tony Buffington, DVM, Ph.D., director of Ohio State University College of Veterinary Medicine’s Indoor Cat Initiative. “Cats are solitary hunters,” he adds. “A lot of people misinterpret that to mean they are asocial. That’s not really what it means.”

Feral cats hunt alone, but they live in colonies, notes Ingrid Johnson, a Marietta, Ga., cat behaviorist. Supporting this more family-oriented view is a 2006 Harris Interactive survey that found that eight out of 10 veterinarians believe feral cats are in fact social by nature.

Signs of Cat Loneliness
Cats can’t pipe up and tell us they need more face-to-whisker time, but there are warning signs. Take note of the following behaviors, which can indicate your pet’s unhappiness:

  • Excessive grooming
  • Excessive meowing
  • Overeating or not eating
  • Coughing up hairballs because of the over-grooming
  • A decrease in activity and interaction

Curing Feline Distress
If you detect any of the indicators for loneliness, you can take steps to make sure your cat is not an unhappy feline. Here are some tips:

  • Visit your veterinarian first Since the symptoms of loneliness can mimic illness, it’s best to have your veterinarian examine your kitty. You’ll want to rule out physical causes, such as thyroid issues, infections or other health problems, which could be causing your cat’s distress.
  • Think pairs If possible, plan to have a cat “family.” For example, Johnson recommends adopting two cats at a time. “I always, always recommend adopting two cats,” she says. “I do not adopt out single cats unless they were raised as a single cat.” She further advises, “Don’t get one little kitten and make them an only child. I do not adopt out kittens unless they are in pairs.”
  • Choose companions wisely If you’re attempting to introduce a new kitty to be a companion for your cat, be cautious, say the experts. “If a cat is having problems, getting another cat is like taking a married couple that is having problems and saying, ‘You just need to have children,’” Dr. Buffington says, explaining that such introductions could even backfire, since you’d be adding yet another source of stress to an already maxed-out cat. She also instructs that you consider your cat’s energy level when bringing another cat into your home. As an example, if your kitty is a sedate 10-year-old, a frisky kitten might not make the best companion. “Don’t get a kitten (in this case). Get a pair of kittens so your 10-year-old doesn’t have to wrestle or rough and tumble,” advises Johnson.
  • Enrich your cat’s environment Your cat is certain to live a safer, healthier life as an indoor cat. But, like zoo animals, indoor cats are cut off from the more dangerous, yet stimulating, outside environment, says Dr. Buffington. “They are always at risk for loneliness in that situation.” It’s up to you to provide a rich, stimulating environment that engages your cat and prevents its loneliness. You’ll want to make sure your cat has places to climb and scratch, as well as toys that provide mental challenges and let your kitty act out its instinct to pursue prey. “People sometimes think cats will create their environment for themselves,” Dr. Buffington says, pointing out that’s false.
  • Be creative about play Too often, we buy cute cat toys on impulse at the pet store, then toss them in a basket. Instead, rotate toys in circulation so your cat doesn’t get bored. Grab a handful of toy mice, or other small toys, and toss them in a catnip marinade in a plastic bag before turning them over to your cat, says Johnson. Feline foraging toys, such as Play-N-Treat balls and the SlimCat, make your cat work for its dry food, since kitties must roll the balls and bat at the containers to get the pellets to dispense. Johnson feeds her cats dry food solely through such foraging toys. Working for the food is “positive frustration. It’s like a little Mensa toy for cats,” she says.

Always remember that your cat does need your interaction, concludes Johnson. “They have independent features and they don’t have that neediness of a dog, so we tend to forget about them,” she says. “But the idea of the loner cat is just folklore.”

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I have a question

Why would our cat which we keep outside (fenced in), like to chase birds that are finding food on the grounds. We have found 5 dead birds recently, but have never seen the cat attack a bird, but we have seen her many times trying to catch them.

Posted by Earl shepherd on 2008-10-13 at 11:42:37

cats

i really appreciate the info i hav got here abt cats. i hav recently got home a kitten from the street. its weak n recovering gradually. gud to hav a animal lovers like u

Posted by Amitha on 2008-10-15 at 04:24:19

sleep

my cat is a kitten and sleeps all day and all night.Does that mean shes lonely? And i got her a scratching post but she scratches the couch,what do i do about that? Mstly she has a hudge litter box but nearly uses it. Im very worried about Milky.

Posted by kimberly on 2008-10-16 at 17:02:14

Cat

Why does my cat bring me articles, clothes hair ties, socks and put them by my bed while I am sleeping?

Posted by Donna on 2008-10-18 at 13:52:56

Kitty licks

I have a kitty that wants to lick me all the time. What does this mean? The licking sometimes drives me up the wall how can I get her to slow down on this. I can't even pet her without getting a bath.

Posted by Cheryl on 2008-10-25 at 21:51:17

My cat peeing on everything!!!

My 10 year old cat is starting to urinate on anything that's soft that's left on the floor, counter or anywhere in the house! It first started with either me or my husband going away - now it happens when we leave any bag out, any clothes being left on the floor, the laundry sink, etc. Now I find if any bag if left on the floor, or towels, blankets, he pees. He is lovable and affectionate, but seems to retaliate when we go away. Our household consists of 1 dog and 2 cats. We work all day and we dog-sit for other dogs quite often. He does this while there are other strange animals in the house or not. He seems happy, but he still will urinate in places you can't imagine. He had a clean bill of health for a vet 6 months ago. HELP!

Posted by Judy on 2008-10-29 at 20:14:41

cat loneliness

We have had our cat for 11 years. She has always gone outside and returned. When we got our 2 year old beagle last year , he chased the cat so much that once whe went outside, she wouldn't come back at all. Sometimes she was missing for weeks, but I left food out for her and we spotted her eating. I finally was able to catch her and bring her inside, but I have to keep her locked in a room where the dog can't bother her. I know she is lonely and bored and I spend time with her a couple of times a day, but my question is, is she better off going back out side and just living there but coming home to eat, or should I keep her locked away in a room. Is she too old to bring in another cat? Thank you.

Posted by anda on 2008-11-09 at 22:31:53

spraying

I inherited a litty about 1 year ago, who had been left after the owners moved away, he had been ill and is slowly getting back to heath. He is very afraid of my husband, although he has never been mean to him. He sprays now and then in the house, I have moved potty boxes around added more to allow for three cats etc. Don't know what to do... Is there a difference in spraying and squating to urinate? I have noticed him doing it both ways outside.

Posted by Mary on 2008-11-12 at 11:05:16

kitten behavior

my kitten of 7 months does not like to be held too much . she either meows and sqirms out of my hands. I'm constantly hugging and kissing her. I'm very loving and spoil her with my affections. Is this normal behavior?

Posted by liz on 2008-11-16 at 19:35:09

Cats ok by themselves for days?

I have a great cat and I am a flight attendant and have to leave her for 3 to 4 days by herself..I leave plenty of food and toys..but still wonder if she is ok by herself..Is there a way of knowing? Thank you for your response!

Posted by Beverly Rosen on 2008-11-22 at 16:38:18

cat ok by himself

We are going away for a week. A friend is coming in daily to feed cat and clean litter. Will the cat be ok? He's 6 mos. old and we adopted him a month ago. Thanks.

Posted by Linda Glass on 2008-12-13 at 13:35:50

female cat

she is one of three cats in the household. She is not spayed--recently has taken up residency at the top step of the basement--which leads to the litterbox and just sits--doesn't move unless coaxed to do so. Is not crying or displaying symptoms of agression--seems more protective of herself. Anyone have some info?

Posted by susan on 2008-12-19 at 09:12:47

cat in heat

how long will this last and can i get her spayed while she is in heat?

Posted by ruth szumigala on 2008-12-22 at 08:18:07

sad kitty?

we recently put down one of our special cats.does the remaining cat know the other one is missing?is she sad?

Posted by nicole on 2008-12-27 at 04:16:05

our cat

Is it possible to take an outside cat to a different location for 5 months and keep him inside? We are unable to leave him behind, and when he does go to camp with us, he hides under the trailer all day. I really want him to stay in, or how can I aclimate him to the two locations, so it is not so traumatic for him?

Posted by Linda Forrest on 2008-12-30 at 05:16:23

need a little help

Richard is 2 1/2 years old black & white looks like a bank robber. Fasination with water constantly in the sink, I made him a boat for the pool, he loves it . He rather stay inside. He likes trucks, but if I get a pizza and evey time he sprays it. He does NOT like my youngest son and I am always the looser. This is the forth time I got bit, always my left hand and it looks like I got bit by king cobra hand swells like baseball glove. I know he's just going after the first thing he sees, then he is very sorry. Im home now from no work, but when working, he puts his hands around my ankles and get dragged to the door. He follows me everywhere, constantly, I blocked him from watching animal planet cause he attacked the TV upon seeing a snake. Tell him once, "bed time" and in my bed he goes till he taps me on the head at 5AM on the dot. So he's good 98% of the time So I ask, my big thing is the biting and its quick. also he does not purr, but he does always signal with a throatal sound. & he doesnt purr beacause he cant do it correctly cause I used to yell at him while trying to sleep . Other kittens would put me to sleep purring in rythem. This guy has no rythem. Thanks for letting me vent a little. Sam

Posted by sam on 2009-01-07 at 10:06:14

declaw

Ihave numerous scratch posts, furniture, lots of attention..but they still use couch, furniture when playing and disregard posts

Posted by Judy Rosenblatt on 2009-01-10 at 00:08:37

boarding

I will be going away for 3 months & am anxious about boarding my kitty, He will be a year old in the spring. Will he remember me when I return & will he be mad at me?

Posted by Diana Winter on 2009-01-17 at 16:04:16

worried to leave cats

I have two cats. I am going out of town for 4 weeks and leaving them at home with my son who has promised to take care of them. I am just so worried to how they will react to my being gone. Any answers?

Posted by kathy on 2009-01-17 at 18:42:15

SMILING

I know my question is crazy but does cat's smile?

Posted by Robin on 2009-02-13 at 19:18:03

Adobtive cat not eating

She was an abused cat & I have had trouble getting her to eat and drink water. She has not eaten in 2 days. She lets me pet her, but won't react to me. She is an orange tabby.

Posted by bill M on 2009-02-17 at 14:18:44

Lonesome Kitty

Lucy came to us (a feral cat) a year after we got a rescue kitty. That was 9 years ago. The rescue died 6 mos.ago. Lucy seems quiet and lonesome, even tho Molly totally dictated her existence. Should we get another companion? Or, instead of finding a kitty sitter for 3 mos in the summer when we are gone on our sailboat, should we take Lucy along. She came with us one weekend and got sick, so we worried that she would not make it for a longer period of time. Help, she is such a sweet kitty.

Posted by Carol Schroeder on 2009-02-22 at 16:51:30

2nd kitty

My cat goes to my neighbors house through her cat door. He eats sleeps and plays with her 2 cats and she does not mind. I was thinking maybe he craves the company of another cat and maybe I should adopt another one??

Posted by Anne on 2009-03-02 at 13:07:04

to much grooming

i have one female cat, two years old who is a maine coon grooms constantly so she throws up hairballs all the time , is she lonely?

Posted by steph on 2009-03-10 at 16:02:42

sick kitty

my cat is coughing and vomiting. cough is dry.

Posted by Rosemarie on 2009-03-19 at 04:26:24

difficulty with found cat

Rusty appeared at my door in my country house. He ran in as soon as I opened the door. His front paws are declawed. He was very clean-no fleas and smelled clean, too. He doesn't try to go outside when door is opened. Rusty eats kibble but has difficulty eating moist food. He tries to chew it. It just ends up spread all over the bowl. He can't meow like a normal cat. He sort of growls softly. The vet said he's about 7-11 years old. His fur is very dry and does not look too pretty. He is an orange American shorthair. Why might he be unable to eat moist food? Vet said his teeth look OK. Why can't he meow? What can I do for his fur? Vet sold me stuff to put into his food but when I do, he won;t eat. I think that perhaps his owner put him out because he would not go out by himself. Also, it looks as though he used to wear some kind of collar - the fur separated around his neck.. I really don't want a cat but I don;t want him to be euthenized so here I am with Rusty who, by now, I love very much, I have him since Nov. "08. HELP!

Posted by phyllis on 2009-03-19 at 12:46:32

Missing male cat in heat.

My male cat is probably about 6 or 7 months old and in heat, but not spayed yet. I have been letting him stay outside during the daytime, but I like to keep him in at night. I named him Whiskers and he has answered to his name when I called him. And he has almost always been around somewhere close. But he has been dying to get out at night. Last night, he meowed so much that I felt so sorry for him and felt I had to let him out. I tried to find him about an hour later and there was no sign of him. It is now almost 24 hours later and there is still no sign of him. I have searched the neighborhood and can't find him. Do you think I have lost him forever? I know that cats often leave for sometimes months at a time and then return. But I have only had him for about 2 months.

Posted by Jeanise on 2009-03-23 at 21:02:16

SlimCat

Where the heck do I find a SlimCat (Feline Foraging Toy)? I know my cat would love it because he's greedy anyway and it will keep him from being bored. I cannot find this thing anywhere? Any suggestions.

Posted by Kelly on 2009-03-24 at 16:54:10

litter box

won't ever use it - only will go to pee outside-she's now 4 yrs old-can she learn about litter box?

Posted by Catherine on 2009-03-26 at 15:36:57

Lonesome Kitty

How do we interact with other posts? Or, see what you recommend? Help! I see lots of topics I would like answered, but do not know how to interact with others.

Posted by Carol Schroeder on 2009-04-03 at 19:49:12

nutritional needs

My mixed breed feral cat has long legs, a small head, a very long tail and large chest. She talks a lot, jumps to high places. My concern is her food. her stools are strong and acrid. What should I be feeding her or not feeling her?

Posted by Ann Churchill on 2009-04-09 at 18:30:02

Lonlieness vs Illness

My 8 yr old female himmy Lilly I know def. misses her companion her companion Frasier who died 2.5 yrs. ago. He was her baby, she still wants to go cry in the bsmt. where we found him dying. She meows and spins her hear around alot, sometimes looks like she looking right thru me. Hooks her right paw when she walks, more than the past few years. Vet thinks it's neurological, she crys alot more now. Not sure if she is in pain or lonely, we got a now 2 yr, old himmy to replace the other as a kitty. she tolerates him, does she still miss the other or is she sick. she eats, plays, drinks, normal. Sleeps more, crys alots, help

Posted by Michelle Faltisko on 2009-04-11 at 23:29:43

Attention seeking Cat

I recently went away for a week & boarded my 3 & half yr old feline tabby. After she got home she keeps crying & looking around & follows me everywhere constantly & wants to be near me & sleeps on top of me. Is she afraid i will leave her again ? Does she need to get readjusted to her home after being away for a week ?

Posted by Lisa on 2009-04-14 at 19:55:14

male manx

I have a manx, and he doesn't like to be held. He sometimes meowes in the meddle of a room and just sits there. I pet him and he bites me. He loves to watch birds because he is an inside cat. He also sometimes makes a weird clicking noise when we try to pick him up. If we don't let him go he bites us through. We hoped getting him spayed would help, but it did nothing to stop him. He is very active and plays with anything. When we open a door he dashes behind it and shoves his whole arm in that little space between the door, and the wall. He never did any of this when we first got him. How do we help him, and get him to not bite us?

Posted by Stephany on 2009-04-19 at 13:14:32

likes my hands to play or bite

My cat is one years old and from day one has like to watch and try to play with my hands I do not like that and he wants to bite them. Also he does not like to be picked up and squirms out of my arms. is this normal.

Posted by inese on 2009-04-28 at 20:46:12

10 month old kitten and toys

Why does my 10 month old kitten drop her toys in the water bowl?

Posted by C HURLEY on 2009-05-06 at 13:21:21

HELP FINDING A HOME

we have been taking care of cats for 5 years.....kitten at first, have routine shots or what ever is needed for them, the problem is they all need homes we are doing the best we can plus we have a 8yr old bassett that just learn how to walk after a year,, with surgery, and rebillation x 3 -4 AYS A WEEK, BUT NOW WALKING

Posted by ginny meacham on 2009-05-20 at 15:02:49

first time cat owner

have a 10 month old cat thought she could use companionship. we brought home another female kitten. thought we had adjustted fine. she has tought kitten to not use litter box. i have yelled at her lost my temper. now she wont come near me.. how do i make up with her and let her know i wont hurt her.this is older cat. thank u.

Posted by kathy on 2009-05-20 at 22:12:20

female kitten

Weadopted Sophie 2 years ago from the shelter- she was just a baby - we love her to pieces- but she doesn't like to be held- will have nothing to do with my husband. she at times will show affection to me but will not sit in my lap. My grandchildren try to play with her- they are very gentle- she has nothing to do with my grandson- she will hiss at him if he gets too close. This does not seem to be getting better- is there something I should be doing? Someone said shes an unhappy cat.. I play with her daily- any suggestions? Thank-You

Posted by Sandy Kingston on 2009-05-29 at 09:58:20

exerc ise and helath

My cat is 5yr old male and I got him from a vets office when he was 3 months old. He is beautiful! He has gall stones so I have to be careful about his food because he was constantly throwing up. it is a fight to get him in a carrier ending up being stessful for both of us. I have purchased this little boy almost every toy in the city and things to climb on and over and he loves them for a day or two and that is it. I invent games and after a few weeks no more. He plays hide and seek and we have a morning routine of feeding, and brushing and playing a game and after that he is done. He weighs 18lbs and the vet put him on a diet this week. Suggestion on how to keep him active

Posted by jane bates on 2009-05-31 at 11:16:25

first time cat owner

The way you make up with your cat after you yelled at her is just leave her alone and she"ll come around usualy when she wants affection. Just give her time

Posted by karen Frystak on 2009-06-08 at 10:10:50

Crying

I have a two year old rescued cat. When I play the stero or whistle along with a song he cries. Am I hurting his ears or is he singing along???

Posted by Hazel Petrovich on 2009-06-09 at 19:50:14

Flame pt. siamese cat

Bites for no reason. not in play.

Posted by Bettie on 2009-06-17 at 22:11:48

Ragdoll Cat Doesn't Play With Toys

The only thing our 1 1/2 yr. old male Ragdoll likes to play is Hide and Seek....He "hides" and when I "find" him, he runs to another hiding spot....he is a big boy so is always in plain sight! He doesn't like to play with toys...he also doesn't like catnip..We had difficulty with him jumping and biting during until about 5 months ago. The vet had put him on a "antidepressant"l: it helped calm him down, but I took him off it because he seemed to become responsive to "Good Boy" and he was told "no" and removed from the person he would be jumping on.

Posted by butterflygrandma on 2009-06-18 at 20:48:54

not good with kids

i have a 8 month cat the only problem i have with her is she just dont seem to interact with my grandkids she will hiss at them claw at them i am a single man and she is the love of my life will let me play with her she even sleeps with me' i am gone most of the day and she greets me at the door.. would hate to get rid of her but on the other hand i do not want my grand kids to get bitten or scratched bye the way my grand kids do nothing to provke her behavor please help

Posted by casey gibson on 2009-06-23 at 21:48:39

Suckling

my cat is very affectionate and she is great she is still kind of young and likes to suckle on my shirts and other clothing while i'm relaxing and leaves huge wet spots on my clothes lol. when will she stop doing this?

Posted by Mario on 2009-07-02 at 09:16:42

Loss of Cat

We recently lost our 16 year old domestic tiger and I am concerned about our 6 year old Maine Coon who is accustomed to having another cat around. We are contemplating getting him a playmate. Do you recommend this and if so are there any preferences for male and male versus male/female pairing? Also what about age differences? The Maine Coon is an indoor only cat and the cat we lost was indoor/outdoor, I want to do the right think for our Maine Coon, he seems sad. Looking forward to your advice. Thank you

Posted by Kristine Patti on 2009-07-04 at 21:13:33

run away cat

i have a 1 year old tabby. he hates to be picked up. when i try to pet him he runs away. is this normal?

Posted by jamie debellis on 2009-07-06 at 14:47:45

CAT

THE CAT IS ABOUT 1 EAR OLD . SHE HAS BEEN WITH US FOR 1 YEAR. SHE WAS VERY PLAYFUL JUST TILL RECENTLY WE TOOK A VACTION FOR 1 WEEK AND THE NEIHBOR CAME OVER TO FEED HER DAILY. WHEN WE RETURNED THE NEXT DAY AND UNTIL NOW SHE IS ACTING VERY SHY , SLOW I PET HER AND SHE DOESNT WANT TO REACT. SHE JUST STARES AT US WE PUT HER DOWN AND SHE JUST SITS THERE LIKE SHE LOST HER BEST FRIENDS SHE HASNT EATEN MUCH EITHER WHATS UP WITH THIOS

Posted by GAIL on 2009-07-07 at 22:01:55

new cat

I just adopted a cat a few weeks ago. Lately he has been throwing up hairballs almost everyday, usually when I"m at work or asleep. I try to give him as much attention as I can when I'm home and play with him but I'm finding it hard to find toys he's interested in, especially toys that he can play with on his own while I'm asleep or at work.

Posted by Rebecca Hoffman on 2009-08-28 at 01:13:58

scratching post

would my declawed cat still benefit from a scratching post, simply as a means of something to do?

Posted by Rebecca Hoffman on 2009-08-28 at 01:15:15

cat scratching

my cat scratches herself raw .vet after vet nothing but putting out more $$$. what can i do to stop the scratching!!!!

Posted by helen on 2009-10-25 at 21:06:11

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