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The Pros and Cons of Being a Cat Lady
By Dorian Wagner
He's cute. He's friendly. The conversation is going great … and then you mention your cats.
He gives you the look. Suddenly, you're a little less cute and charming, and a little more crazy. He's picturing an apartment crawling with toy mice, you in a bathrobe and slippers, and him getting scratched across the forehead while sleeping.
Being a cat lady can be a bit of a hurdle when it comes to looking for love. I haven't gotten a third cat yet because I've heard living alone with three cats is where you cross over into “Crazy Cat Lady” territory. It's enough to be single in my 30s -- I don't need to make things even more complicated, right?
If you find yourself in this predicament -- assuming you've told him about your cats and haven't scared him off yet -- bringing the new guy home is a whole other story. He has to know the cats live there, and he's just visiting. You'll make this clear, but will it also become clear that you're nuts?
Then there's the whole sleeping arrangement. Do the cats still sleep in the bed? Should he sleep in awkward positions to accommodate them?
In the end, I've always found that cats are great judges of character. My two boys and me, we're a package deal. They can be surprisingly cooperative when they like someone -- and incredibly difficult when they don't.
The bottom line: The cats love you unconditionally … and so should he.
Cat researchers, breeders and others have replaced the old term "alley cat" with this phrase: